Is it possible that the contraction of craving is a result of not allowing the energy of the deeper desires to unfold and be felt?
Rob talks about this in Opening the Dharma of Desire pt 1 of the retreat (Talks - Eros Unfettered - Opening the Dharma of Desire - Rob Burbea ), as a practice to play with when there’s dukkha, whether or not it is obvious that there is a desire there.
“Just let go” is certainly an option, but it comes at a cost. What are we losing if we do so?
3 Steps to the practice
1. Ask what am I really/deeply wanting?
- Sit with the question for some time
- Not seeking an answer from the mind, but from the whole being, the citta
- Unhook the desire from its immediately obvious object (
form desire vs feeling desire
- Usually we find out that what we really want is something more general/abstract and deeper than our initial thought
- In Rob’s example of being upset with Gaia House’s policy, he found his desire to be freedom from constraint
2. Change perspective on desire
- Clear away (negative) preconceptions (e.g.
happiness is the absence of desire
]]) of desire
- Introduce some trust in the desire
- Play with the idea that there might be a deeper intelligence of desire
3. Open to the currents/feelings of desire
- Allowing as fully as possible the energy/stream/flow of desire throughout the
- We may experience a release from the dukkha, as we find out that we already have what we’re deeply desiring for
…shouldn’t we be with the sense of lack?
- Sometimes, if there is is a sense of lack, we may need to be with it, feel it and care for it. But we shouldn’t let that be our only or default approach
- The sense of lack may gradually soothe
- But doing this keeps it at a feeling of lack
- We may think that being with the lack is being with what is
- But thinking so fails to see dependent co-arising
- The way of paying attention to it may keep building those emotions
- We don’t see we are constructing our experience
- This practice is not about just accepting
- We are actively playing with trusting the wisdom of desire
Differences with Imaginal Practice
]] the image is primary, it may change a bit but it is retained
- We’re not reducing the image to a meaning or representation
- In this practice, the image is secondary, the image may be regarded as a representation
- What’s primary is the deeper current of desire
- Woman in long distance relationship desiring her partner
- Found out she wanted the opening of the heart, wanted to love, wanted to be received
- Rob’s desire made him impatient to learn more about modern physics
- felt like he was unable to read fast enough
- wanted to get to the end of the process
- at first the desire seemed to want to end the inquiry, to understand all there was to be understood
- opening to the desire opened a sense of joy to the process of inquiry itself
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