Talk One
- As Samadhi deepens it leads to a sense of happiness, well-being and pleasure
- Buddha placed large emphasis on it
- Happiness leads to samadhi and viceversa (Reinforcing Feedback Loops)
- Meditation as an Art
- No strict rules of how to respond
- Sense of play
Key Attitudes
- Play
- Bringing play to practice every moment
- Playing with the breath
- Our conception of the breath (feeling the breath coming out of our chest etc…)
- Making breath as pleasurable as possible
- Patience
- Appreciation and gratitude
- Generosity
- Reminding ourselves that we are practicing for the good of all beings
For the Good of all Beings
- Creating a reservoir of pleasure and well being in practice allows us to let go and renounce material things
- We need less to be satisfied (food, entertainment, stuff)
- No need to be comfortable or security
- We become more available to others
- Because we have enough
- The idea of renunciation is not scary anymore
Not “Being with What Is”
- This practice encourages us to play with and manipulate the breath
- This may feel not spiritual or not correct
- Strong emphasis on being with what is
- That kind of practice is not preparing us for daily life
- In life we are constantly shaping and responding to things, we are not passively going through it
- We manipulate the breath to make it as pleasurable as possible
Talk Two - Understanding the Heart
-
Chitta - Heartmind
-
3 Components of the path
- Mindfulness
- Cultivation (of qualities like Samadhi, Metta, Equanimity etc…)
- Insight (into suffering in a way that drains suffering away)
-
Understanding of suffering and of happiness are both parts of the path
Cultivation of Qualities
- Generosity
- An open, giving heart
- When meditation feels dry, recall times when you acted generously
- It brings self-esteem, warmth, encouragement, into the moment
- We need to practice generosity in our lives
- Sila (Ethics)
- Acting and living ethically makes us calmer, we worry less
- People can trust us more
Goals
- We can talk about progress in our practice
- The qualities we developed
- The patterns we let go of
- The idea of success brings with it that of failure
- Our fear of failure makes us not want to think about progress
Two More “Keywords”
- Sensitivity
- Developing a light, delicate, subtle attention
- Not forcing
- Sensitive to the present moment, and to what we are doing in it
- Are we adding unnecessary harshness?
- Steadiness
Working with Hindrances
-
Do not take the presence of hindrances personally
- Their presence just means you’re human
-
Avoid getting taken for a ride by them
- See them arise and work with them
-
Torpor
- Align the posture
- Use long, energizing breath
- Imagine a gold/white bright light in the middle of your head
- Open your eyes and get a sense of spaciousness
-
Restlessness
- Again, create sense of spaciousness, expand awareness
-
Greed
-
Aversion
-
Doubt
On Difficult Emotions
- Is it possible that by orienting towards good feelings we suppress negative emotions?
- Yes, possible, but there’s more to it
- We have the notion that our negative emotions get stored in the body and keep coming up in meditation
- Another view, Dependent Arising (Emptiness), holds that emotions come up in the present moment depending on causes and conditions
- Do emotions arise because they “have to”, or is the mind contributing to let them arise?
- Both views can be useful
Different Kinds of Happiness
- Different Kinds of Happiness
- From sense pleasures
- From stories of the mind (if we are careful with them)
- From letting go of the stories
- From non-entanglement with past or future
- It’s crucial for us as human beings to know these different kinds of happiness
- Some are more fulfilling, profound than others
- We need to taste them
- What if we could drench our being and body in deep happiness most days of our lives?
- How would that affect our lives?
- A lot of our worries would appear less relevant
Talk Three - WIse Effort & Attachment
-
Just being with what is can be a useful approach but can’t be the only way we see our spiritual life
- If we did, our spiritual life wouldn’t resemble our real life at all
- Our life is full of goals
- Goals give our life direction and meaning
-
Goals themselves are not a problem
- The problem arises in the Self view that we create with goals
- The Self measurement
- The problem arises in the Self view that we create with goals
-
The Buddha used the word “striving” a lot
It is by relying on craving that craving is to be abandoned
-
Is it possible that we don’t desire (awakening) enough?
- Talks - Beauty of Desire - Rob Burbea
- Or maybe we spread our desire to many meaningless things
Wise Effort
1. Effort towards what?
- Cultivating beautiful qualities of the mind
- Letting go and preventing unwholesome qualities
2. What’s involved in Wise effort?
-
Wise Attachment is involved
- We actually need to get attached (with balance) to Ethics, Samadhi etc…
- Is denying any attachment the most skillful way? Is it even possible?
- A baby needs to get attached to his mother, that’s healthy
- Then we can let go of our attachment to these things
- We need to reach the other shore before letting go of the raft
- We often are afraid of getting attached to Samadhi while our lives are already full of attachments (to certain foods, our house etc…)
-
The Buddha’s Four Bases of Success
- Desire
- Are we practicing from a “should” attitude or from a full desire?
- Practicing from “should” ends up being dry
- Persistence
- Intentness (being there with your full being)
- Ingenuity (creative responsiveness)
- Desire
-
Inner Critic is not involved
Dealing with Inner Critic
- Talks - Ending the Inner Critic - Rob Burbea
- Some degree of dissatisfaction may be skillful
- It becomes problematic when we judge ourselves harshly for not achieving our result
- Can we judge ourselves based on intentions rather than results?
- We don’t have full control over results (Internalize your goals, Detachment makes you perform better)
- Respecting ourselves for our level of care, kindness
- Instead of the way we look, the money we earn etc..
- Can we dwell, appreciate and cherish our beautiful aspirations, our nobility?
- People are afraid that doing so builds the ego
- Yet, we continue dwelling in how we are not good enough
- Still building self, but cultivating negative states of mind
Shifting from “essence” to actions
-
Not making conclusions about your essence based on one action you took
-
What exactly am I criticizing?
-
We usually judge ourselves, but that’s a big, fuzzy concept
-
What we are actually criticizing is a moment (of forgetfulness, unskillful action)
- Is that moment my Self?
- We take a micro-moment and blow it up to be our whole self
-
Things arise depending on the causes and conditions (Emptiness)
- They have very little to do with self
- Expecting that the waves (up and downs) will come
-
Even when meditation doesn’t feel good, what are we cultivating?
- Patience, non-judgmentalism, mindfulness, spirit of questioning
3. Balancing
- Continuous responsiveness of our effort (The Middle Path)
- Am I putting too much or too little effort?
- Our attention should be like gently holding a bird in our handsmetaphor
- Sometimes too much effort can constrict awareness and make meditation harder, create even more thoughts
Talk Four - Jhanas
- Description of Jhanas
Risk of Escapism?
- Pleasure in practice can be seen as an escape
- It needs to be seen as one part of practice
- Other parts involve being with one’s negative feelings
- Practicing the Jhanas also helps us develop Love and confidence. It serves as healing for the body and mind
- We realize we can be happy without needing anything
- Helps us avoid greed and compulsive consumption
- Buddha talked about practicing Samadhi leading to Enlightenment
Talk Five - Concentration and Insight
- Developing concentration, can be a preparation for insight practices (vipassana)
- As you go deeper you see that Samadhi and Vipassana feed each other and blend into each other
- Samadhi is the most fertile ground for insight to take root
- Being with what is isn’t the final goal of the path
- Insight meditation is “developing ways of looking that bring freedom”
Samatha, An Act of Non-Fabrication
-
Deep understanding of how the mind fabricates
- We assume the mind receives the experience
- In reality, the mind is constantly fabricating, by gluing pieces together
- It can fabricate a nightmare world
- Even the present moment, and the Jhanas are fabricated, although there’s less and less fabrication in those states
-
Understanding how the mind is constantly fabricating our experience, we can mold the experience
- Fine-tuning the mind frequencies to the pleasant
- Even unpleasant feelings can eventually be experienced as pleasant
-
Sometimes we may think we’re just being with what is, being with the suffering
- But on a deeper level there’s aversion there, contributing to the suffering
- ”How Am I compounding this suffering/perception?”
- As we relax aversion to suffering, we may see the pain beginning to fade
-
Sense of self (Ego) gets weaker in Samadhi
- It can be a gradual process, as fear will come up
Practice
-
If we’re struggling with a difficult situation
-
When we’re in a state of calmness, we can try dropping in a difficult thought
- Like dropping a pebble in the water to see its ripples
-
We may find that in a state of Samatha, we have a more skillful, clear understanding of the difficult situation
-
Samatha is not about denial or running away from Emotions
Other Benefits of Samadhi Practice
- Reaching the Jhanas
- Develop
- Confidence
- Patience
- Faith (in the practice)
- Equanimity → Be with everything that’s happening
- Willingness to renunciation (because you see you don’t need anything to feel good)
Guided Meditation Notes
- Playing with the breath, but not forcing
- Simply ask, what will it feel like if I lengthen the breath a bit, and allowing the breath to delicately change
- Asking what’s needed right now in the body, and use the breath to support
- ”What does feel best right now?”
- Not fear mistakes, we are just playing
- We all make mistakes and that’s how we learn
- If you’re not playing with the breath, it should be because it feels really good
- If it doesn’t feel really good, play with it
- Possible that we feel a sense of comfort somewhere in the body
- Using the breath to nurture that sense of comfort
- Consistency of attention with comfort allows it to grow
- We stay with what’s there, and then we can allow it to spread
- No need to put pressure on it
- The mind could get tense, not happy
- We can enjoy and be contented with whatever slight pleasure, comfort you might feel
- Awareness will continuously shrink, we should continuously expand it
- 8 ways for Dealing with Pain in Meditation
Related: Meditation