- What is the thing we dream of?
- 3 aspects of choice
- Potential - There needs to be options to select from
- Selection - One option is selected
- Causation - Non-reversible outcome (if choice doesn’t create change in the world it’s as if it didn’t happen)
Choice vs. Decision
- Decision - de-cide - to cut off available options
- Assume there’s no win-win possible
- Assumes completeness of information
- Choice is about increasing the field of options available until the right option becomes obvious (similar to Paper - Resilience as Pathway Diversity by Lade et al)
- Assumes we can never have perfect information
- Assumes win-win choice is always possible (we may not be able to find it, but it exists), which makes it worthwhile to search
Integrity/Aliveness/Meaningfulness
How I connect to the world should build the world’s integrity (aliveness/meaningfulness), my integrity and the relationship between Self and World integrity
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Integrity as full realization of actuality (what we can do) and potentiality (what we could do)
- (eat the cake and have it too)
- A choice that has no actuality (no outcome), is indistinguishable from not having made a choice at all
- A choice that restricts all your future choices (restricts potentiality), a choice that does not further (i.e. evil)
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We want a choice that has consequences, and that begets future choices (for us an others
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Full actuality removes all potentiality and viceversa
- Empty garden is full potentiality and no actuality
- We want to make actuality and potentiality work together in balance
- Committing to a choice but being open and flexible to changing it
- Being, Doing, Becoming model for Personal Development (Meaningful Life)
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Sacrifice self for other, other for self, future for now or now for future, are all theories of trade-offs that don’t equal the best consideration
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A good choice is one that you can clearly think and feel through in a positive way
Love
Love is that that enables choice
- Not making choices for the people we love, but enabling them
- If we love our children we want them to be wise and able to make choices on their own
- Love is irrational
- If you tell someone “I love you because…”, they will be afraid that if they stop that you’ll stop loving them