• What is the thing we dream of?
  • 3 aspects of choice
    • Potential - There needs to be options to select from
    • Selection - One option is selected
    • Causation - Non-reversible outcome (if choice doesn’t create change in the world it’s as if it didn’t happen)

Choice vs. Decision

  • Decision - de-cide - to cut off available options
    • Assume there’s no win-win possible
    • Assumes completeness of information
  • Choice is about increasing the field of options available until the right option becomes obvious (similar to Paper - Resilience as Pathway Diversity by Lade et al)
    • Assumes we can never have perfect information
    • Assumes win-win choice is always possible (we may not be able to find it, but it exists), which makes it worthwhile to search


How I connect to the world should build the world’s integrity (aliveness/meaningfulness), my integrity and the relationship between Self and World integrity

  • Integrity as full realization of actuality (what we can do) and potentiality (what we could do)

    • (eat the cake and have it too)
    • A choice that has no actuality (no outcome), is indistinguishable from not having made a choice at all
    • A choice that restricts all your future choices (restricts potentiality), a choice that does not further (i.e. evil)
  • We want a choice that has consequences, and that begets future choices (for us an others

  • Full actuality removes all potentiality and viceversa

    • Empty garden is full potentiality and no actuality
    • We want to make actuality and potentiality work together in balance
      • Committing to a choice but being open and flexible to changing it
      • Being, Doing, Becoming model for Personal Development (Meaningful Life)
  • Sacrifice self for other, other for self, future for now or now for future, are all theories of trade-offs that don’t equal the best consideration

  • A good choice is one that you can clearly think and feel through in a positive way


Love is that that enables choice

  • Not making choices for the people we love, but enabling them
  • If we love our children we want them to be wise and able to make choices on their own
  • Love is irrational
    • If you tell someone “I love you because…”, they will be afraid that if they stop that you’ll stop loving them

Forrest Landry | Daniel Schmachtenberger