Talks by Rob Burbea
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Should We Let go of All Desire?
- Desire is infinite in its mystery
- Can be explored by so many angles
- We can’t exhaust the exploration of desire
- Our idea of enlightened people is that of someone who has dropped all desire
- Just perfectly happy with what is
- A common teaching is “Let go of all desire”
- Is that even possible?
- Subtle desires will probably remain
- Even the Buddha desired to share his teachings
- We have to be careful that the path we are on doesn’t shrink something within us that might be a blessing
Do We Fear Desire?
- We often have a fear of deep desire
- Particularly desire of “deep” things, like God or enlightenment
- Yet many other small desires go unnoticed and accepted. Desire for comfort, convenience etc…
Connecting with Desire (Exercise)
Minute 14:00 - 40:00 of talk 1
- Imagining ourselves on our deathbed and asking ourselves (~ min 20-40?):
- What did I want in my life
- What do I regret not doing
- Asking “what do I want” may bring up a sense of lack
]] may come up and shut our desires down (“you can’t never do that!”)
- That doesn’t give the desire a chance to grow
- Some of the reasoning of the IC may even be right
- But if we’re too quick to allow the IC to tell us why we won’t be able to do something, we don’t give desire a chance to grow
- Maybe we need to protect desire like we protect a small plant that needs to grow
The inner critic inhibits desire and desire inhibits the inner critic
Another Side of Desire
Opening to Desire
- Fantasy of being a researcher into consciousness
- How does that change your attitude to practice?
- Instead of thinking of yourself “trying to do it right”?
- Dropping the assumptions that desire is problematic and to be suppressed
- Playing with the assumption that desire might have something meaningful to give us
“Ultimately one loves one’s desires and not that which is desired”
- Asking yourself “What am I wanting”?
- Going deeper than the surface, mind craving (usually a specific object e.g. I want a gf)
- I want to love, the opening of the heart, to see beauty in everything, the sense of being received
- Sitting with and opening to the sense of desire
- Being careful to a sense of lack emerging
- Does lack necessarily need to be there when I feel desire? (hint: no)